Thursday, March 19, 2015

Lesson Review: Chapter 5

Chapter 5: Principles of True Repentance

Oftentimes our challenges with truly understanding repentance are rooted in improper understanding of other gospel aspects. Repentance itself seems simple enough, but do we truly understand it in all its beauty?
Quote 2: repentance means more than simply a reformation of behavior. Many men and women in the world demonstrate great willpower and self-discipline in overcoming bad habits and the weaknesses of the flesh. Yet at the same time they give no thought to the Master, sometimes even openly rejecting Him. Such changes of behavior, even if in a positive direction, do not constitute true repentance.
Quote 3: Paul wrote: “Now I rejoice, not that ye were made sorry, but that ye sorrowed to repentance: for ye were made sorry after a godly manner. …
“For godly sorrow worketh repentance to salvation not to be repented of: but the sorrow of the world worketh death.” (2 Cor. 7:9–10.)
In both of these scriptures, godly sorrow is defined as a sorrow that leads us to repentance.
Godly sorrow is a gift of the Spirit.
 Quote 4: No one is more anxious to see us change our lives than the Father and the Savior. In the book of Revelation is a powerful and profound invitation from the Savior. He says, “I stand at the door, and knock: if any man hear my voice, and open the door, I will come in to him.” (Rev. 3:20.) Note that He does not say, “I stand at the door and wait for you to knock.” He is calling, beckoning, asking that we simply open our hearts and let Him in.
 
One Sunday after her self-evaluation, she began to feel gloomy and pessimistic. She could see that she was making the same errors over and over again, week to week. But then she had a distinct impression that she was neglecting a big part of the Atonement—Christ’s enabling power. She was forgetting all the times the Savior helped her be who she needed to be and serve beyond her own capacity.
With this in mind, she reflected again on the previous week. She said: “A feeling of joy broke through my melancholy as I noted that He had given me many opportunities and abilities. I noted with gratitude the ability I had to recognize my child’s need when it wasn’t obvious. I noted that on a day when I felt I could not pack in one more thing to do, I was able to offer strengthening words to a friend. I had shown patience in a circumstance that usually elicited the opposite from me.”
She concluded: “As I thanked God for the Savior’s enabling power in my life, I felt so much more optimistic toward the repentance process I was working through and I looked to the next week with renewed hope.” (The sacrament, a renewal for the soul Cheryl A Esplin, Oct 2014 General Conference)

Faith and Repentance are the first 2 principles of the gospel, they lay the foundation for our testimonies. Satan knows this and aggressively attacks these.  His attack of faith can often seem more obvious and overt, as we see the faith of our society come under attack. We see the same philosophies as seen in the Book of Mormon evidenced today in young adults mocking the “foolish traditions” of their fathers when referring to religious beliefs. Among other attacks on our faith.
But he works just as hard at attempting to undermine the true beauty of repentance. However, his attack on repentance is sometimes more covert, as the repentance process is often done in private. Satan works hard to try to distort repentance to be something we fear or get uncomfortable about. We might have different emotions on the topic based on different phases of life or the different phases of the repentance process that we might currently be at.
Elder Christofferson, The divine gift of repentance
Only repentance leads to the sunlit uplands of a better life. And, of course, only through repentance do we gain access to the atoning grace of Jesus Christ and salvation. Repentance is a divine gift, and there should be a smile on our faces when we speak of it. It points us to freedom, confidence, and peace. Rather than interrupting the celebration, the gift of repentance is the cause for true celebration.
We discussed the following aspects of repentance that some people struggle with
·         Feelings of excessive/debilitating guilt
·         Inability to get past guilt or to feel relief or to feel forgiven (completed process, but still feel bad)
·         Not realizing the need to repent
·         Wondering if they have done enough to make restitution or paid the price sufficiently
·         Being afraid to confess
·         Fear of if restitution will be accepted
·         Feelings of hopelessness due to repeat offenses, I keep slipping up
·         Not feeling the desire to change
·         Not being willing to give up the sin (I like it, peer pressure)
·         Trying to avoid/escape truly understanding repentance by attempting to be perfect (on our own merits)
We discussed the following potential roots of these struggles and what might be a solution or answer to some of these.
·         Remembering the price has already been paid
·         Remembering that it’s not just reformation, but paying the price
·         Remembering the importance of forgiving others
o   We are not perfect, how prideful to withhold our forgiveness when we most assuredly need forgiveness. If we are struggling with repentance, think of someone we can forgive.
·         Faith that the atonement is real, that we can be forgiven. Enos: Guilt was swept away., because I knew God could not lie. How is this done? Because of his faith in Jesus Christ
·         Remembering our divine worth:
·         Recognizing progress, the enabling power having impact on our lives
·         Remembering everyone needs it
·         Remembering true meaning of: Godly sorrow is a tool to bring us to repentance and have a change of heart. It has a purpose, it is not meant to lead us to despair. Hopelessness comes from Satan.
·         Remembering Heavenly Father and Jesus want us to succeed
·         Retaining hope

Quote 1: “The Lord works from the inside out. The world works from the outside in. The world would take people out of the slums. Christ takes the slums out of people, and then they take themselves out of the slums. The world would mold men by changing their environment. Christ changes men, who then change their environment. The world would shape human behavior, but Christ can change human nature. …
“Yes, Christ changes men, and changed men can change the world.”


Quote 5: One of Satan’s most effective strategies with those whom he has lured into sin is to whisper in their ears that they are not worthy to pray. He will tell you that Heavenly Father is so displeased with you that He will never hear your prayers. This is a lie, and he says it to deceive us. The power of sin is great. If we are to extricate ourselves from it, especially serious sin, we must have a power greater than ourselves.
No one is more anxious to help you flee from sin than your Heavenly Father. Go to Him. Acknowledge your sin, confess your shame and your guilt, and then plead with Him for help. He has the power to help you triumph.13
Quote 6: there are hundreds and thousands of people who find the process of repentance much more subtle, much more imperceptible. Day by day they move closer to the Lord, little realizing they are building a godlike life. They live quiet lives of goodness, service, and commitment. They are like the Lamanites, who the Lord said “were baptized with fire and with the Holy Ghost, and they knew it not.” (3 Ne. 9:20; italics added.)
We must not lose hope. Hope is an anchor to the souls of men. Satan would have us cast away that anchor. In this way he can bring discouragement and surrender. But we must not lose hope. The Lord is pleased with every effort, even the tiny, daily ones in which we strive to be more like Him. Though we may see that we have far to go on the road to perfection, we must not give up hope.15
Quote: Enabling Power, Seeing our Progression:
Each week, she conducted a self-evaluation during the sacrament. She recalled mistakes she had made, and she committed to be better the next week. She was grateful to be able to make things right and be made clean. Looking back on the experience, she said, “I was acting on the repentance part of the Atonement.”

Thought: Eustress vs Distress application to proper guilt
Eustress is the good stress that motivates you to continue working. Stress can be a motivator and provide incentive to get the job done. This "good stress" is what eustress can be identified as and some people enjoy it. Everyone needs a little bit of stress in their life in order to continue to be happy, motivated, challenged and productive. It is when this stress is no longer tolerable and/or manageable that distress comes in.
Bad stress, or distress, is when the good stress becomes too much to bear or cope with. Tension builds, there is no longer any fun in the challenge, there seems to be no relief, no end in sight. This is the kind of stress most of us are familiar with and this is the kind of stress that leads to poor decision making.

Similarly, Godly sorrow is a gift from God that motivates us to change and improve and repent. But when our sorrow transitions to despair and hopelessness, that comes from Satan and instead of helping us, it can hinder our progression. It is important to be aware of the source of our guilt and not allow Satan to pull us down.

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